🌿 Why Do I Overreact in Relationships?

Have you ever caught yourself snapping at someone you love, then immediately wondering: “Where did that come from?”

You don’t want to overreact. You don’t mean to. But in the moment, it feels automatic.

🧠 The Science of Overreaction

When you’ve experienced stress or trauma, your amygdala—the part of your brain that scans for danger—can become overactive.

That means small conflicts (a late text, a forgotten chore, a certain tone of voice) can set off big reactions. Your nervous system interprets them as threats, not inconveniences.

It’s not about being “too emotional. ”It’s about your body trying to protect you—even when you’re safe.

📖 What Scripture Says About Anger and Patience

The Bible doesn’t shame us for strong emotions. It gives us tools to steward them:

• “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” — James 1:19

• “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” — Proverbs 15:1

• “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” — Ephesians 4:26

God understands the fire inside of you—and He offers peace that calms it without silencing your voice.

✨ A Gentle Step When You Feel Triggered

Next time you feel yourself overreacting, pause and try this:

1. Place both feet flat on the floor.

2. Inhale slowly and whisper: “Lord, guard my heart.”

3. Exhale and ask: “What’s the real fear underneath my reaction?”

This pause interrupts the overreaction cycle and helps your nervous system learn a new response.

💜 You’re Not “Too Much”

If you’ve ever been told you’re overreacting, here’s the truth: you’re not broken. You’re human. You’re healing.

And every time you pause and invite God into the moment, you’re teaching your body that safety and love are possible—right here, right now.

Pause. Breathe. Reflect. Selah 🌿